- Shirleen P., RN
Mental health & wellness matters
I'm Shirleen, registered nurse and my blog was made to help people, families, friends and the community with mental health/wellness. This blog has important tools, tips and ideas to achieve goals and have better quality of life.
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How living with mental health can look...
Living with a mental health problem is hard. Sometimes you or someone you care about doesn’t know it’s a mental health issue or you might have been diagnosed with a mental health condition.
Mental health has many faces. You wake up and feel anxious, not motivated, tired or hopeless. Mental health could cause different types of problems. It can change the way you feel about yourself, people and life. Things can change for the better.
Ask the right questions for better mental health
How important is mental health? Answer: very important. Mental health can change every part of your life or the life of someone you care about. It can affect everything. Health, happiness, relationships, family, friends, how you think about yourself and others, career/school, social life and more. Discover your reasons why it's important to control mental illness. This gives motivation to control it especially during the hard times.
Who is impacted by mental health and wellness?
About 1 out of every 4 people has a mental health condition. It affects millions of people around the world. It could be you, family member, friend, co-worker or neighbor. There are many people who live without knowing they have it. Today, there are several ways to manage mental health but it’s not always as easy as it looks
Living life and mental health:
When you know yourself or the person dealing with mental health problems, it’s easier to control the condition! Learn ways to know symptoms, issues or if something just feels wrong but you don’t know what it is.
It could be mental health problem but it can show up in different ways. For instance, anxiety can sometimes show up as feeling nervous, worry, sweating or you can't concentrate. It’s hard to know it's anxiety because sometimes symptoms will change. Symptoms can change with each episode or over time. When learn or know your symptoms, write it down. When you know more about symptoms, then you can know how to deal with it.
Use information about mental health:
There is a lot of information about mental health but not all of it is good. When you’re looking for helpful information, make sure the person or organization providing it is a good source. Make sure you use sites like WebMD, Mayo Clinic or government sites. It’s important to make sure the information you’re getting is accurate and up-to-date.
Just knowing about mental health isn't enough. In life, school, work, sports, relationships and more, you need to use what you learned to get the results you want. For example, with depression symptoms you and/or loved one can feel sad or down. You can learn what to do in a book or online. Learn and use the information. You need to write down what you learned, review it then use it. It’s hard to remember what you learned and what to do when you're dealing with a mental health crisis.
Mental health and personal goals
How to turn your goals into reality:
Commit, plan and be flexible
Having mental health issues can affect personal goals. Many people they don’t know what they want, how to get started or have a plan. According to University of Scranton in USA, only 8% of people reach their New Year’s goals. You can reach your goals by making a commitment, create a good action plan and preparation.
When you're not feeling your best mentally, it usually affects your life including personal goals. Many people don’t reach their goals maybe because they don’t know exactly what they want, how to get resources, get prepared or have a good plan to get there. If you know what you want in life, you’re ahead of the game today. If you don’t, you can always start now. Let’s talk about a common goal. One important goal is being successful. Maybe it’s success at work, in your family, money, business or personal life. If you’re reading this, you’re probably not where you want to be yet but that can change.
If you are serious about finding and reaching your goals, it’s important be 100% committed. Without commitment, it’s hard to get to where you want to be in anything. Ask an athlete, CEO, mom or someone in college or building their career. Without commitment, you won’t have the motivation to get to where you want to go.
1. Commit to your mental health so you can commit to your goals. Write it down: When you write down your goals, you can increase your chances of getting there up to 40 percent. When you write down what you want, why you want to get there and think of some good ideas, you’re on your way. Think about when you go to new place or take a road trip. You have an idea of where you want to go, what you want to see, places to visit or eat. Then, you find the location and put it in your GPS and pack what you need. You’re on your way. Your goals are so important so it’s worth writing it down. Put it in your journal, laptop, phone or on piece of paper. Write it then review it.
2. Make an action plan (the road to success): After you commit, you need to make and write down your action plan. How do you plan to get there? Write down at least 5-10 different things you need to do in 1 year or 5 years. Then, break down the goals for each month. It could be 3 or more things you need to do for each month. An example is to do research on what you want. If you want to have your own business, then study business. If you want to be a better parent, then study parenting. If you want to finish school or build your career, research career planning. It might take you several attempts to find the right action plan and that’s okay. Your first action plan might not be the best one. Keep changing it until you get the results you want. Do what it takes to reach your goals.
3. Be prepared for setbacks: Work on your mental health everyday. Balancing your mental health and working on goals takes commitment, a good action plan and preparation. “It is better to be prepared for an opportunity and not have one than to have an opportunity and not be prepared.” per Whitney M. Young. You have to prepare if you want to get to your goals. You need to be patient, prepare for setbacks and changes in your life, family, economy and more. When you’re prepared and something unexpected happens, you will have an idea of what to do instead of feeling lost. Write down some issues you had in the past and what problems can happen when you go for your goals. Write down at least 3 solutions that can help. You might need to look for more resources or read about what other people did to cope. This way if something unexpected happens, you can handle it instead of giving up on your goals.
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